Can’t be denied that the game is a bit (ok, a big bit) buggy but I’m still having fun playing it. You just have to not get too attached to anything because Funcom have a habit of adding more bugs then they ever fix and things can come crashing down around you.
As for servers, OTG are scattered about like confetti. The setup on each server is different and people have different likes and dislikes, hence the proliferation of servers.
I’m spending most of my time on Dificeman’s server https://forums.oldtimersguild.com/t/pve-server/2605, a friendly pve only one clan (so far) server.